I'm Savy, a 22y/o Mechanical Engg. Student.
I admit there is still a lot that needs to be done for this site, but i'm slowly figuring it all out.... :)
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I often find myself in casual friendships that feel like I’m there to appease the other person, instead of friendships that feel aligned and that I feel intrinsically motivated and excited to sustain. A key part is that I also don’t feel known in these friendships, so it’s hard to believe that I’m gaining a meaningful benefit outside of whatever I gain by performing the role of “good friend.” My early hypothesis is that this happens because my avoidance manifests by obscuring my personal needs in relationships of all kinds. I’m rarely approaching new relationships by asking what I’m getting out of them, I am more focused on what’s being asked of me and how I can accommodate it, which then becomes a tough dynamic to interrupt.
